Ours’ songwriter has a new lease on life

“To thine own self be true” — Shakespeare’s philosophy is something Jimmy Gnecco follows to the letter.

A couple of years ago, the Ours frontman decided to switch his birthday celebration from Sept. 30 to Sept. 4, he says, “Because it was a new day for me, and I wasn’t ever going back to the person I was before. I was really closed off about sharing how I felt, and I’ve learned that I should always tell people how I really feel, no matter how much it may hurt their feelings. I’m going to save everyone a ton of time that way.”

His previous persona is on Ours’ new, third recording, “Mercy … Dancing for the Death of an Imaginary Enemy,” from which the band is likely to play Friday in concert at Slim’s in San Francisco.

Track one, “Mercy,” mentions suicide; amid the murky chords of track two, “The Worst Things Beautiful,” the topic expands as the Baudelairian lyricist thanks unknown benefactors with the line, “Could I save your life like you saved mine?”

Gnecco is being brutally honest; the potential suicide was himself, his saviors being his two teenage children who phoned him one night just in the nick of time.

“It started with a good amount of drinking,” the 34-year-old admits. “And then I found myself standing on the roof of the L.A. mansion where we were recording ‘Mercy,’ ready to jump. Which was pretty ironic — we were in a mansion, making a record with Rick Rubin, and I should be happy. But I was out there, teetering, thinking ‘Not even this feels good to me.’ I was ready to take my own life.”

The New Jersey native was in a bad state, having watched his 2002 album, “Precious,” tank right out of the box. Within a week of its release, his cousin passed away, one of his best friends was killed in a car crash and his longtime girlfriend committed suicide on a wine-aspirin overdose.

But at 4 o’clock in the morning on his birthday, when his son called him from across the country, things changed for Gnecco, who says, “He was just getting up for school. I was still up, shaking and crying, and he said ‘Hey, dad, happy birthday!’ And that really hit me. It would be the most selfish thing I could do, to leave my children and put that message in their heads — that when it gets really bad you should just give up.”

Now the songwriter finds inspiration everywhere he looks. Still, Gnecco doesn’t see his case as extraordinary. “I think I’ve just been learning some basic life lessons,” he says. “And I felt like a man with nothing to lose, but now I understand — I had plenty to lose.”

IF YOU GO

Ours

Where: Slim’s, 333 11th St., S.F.

When: 9 p.m. Friday

Tickets: $15

Contact: (415) 255-0333 or www.sflims-sf.com

artsentertainmentOther Arts

If you find our journalism valuable and relevant, please consider joining our Examiner membership program.
Find out more at www.sfexaminer.com/join/

Just Posted

Union threatens legal action after Police Commission expands use-of-force policy

San Francisco’s police union is pursuing legal action after the Police Commission… Continue reading

Restorative art on the inside and out

Curator Ericka Scott organizes exhibition of works by prisoners

City Attorney seeks to recoup ‘illegal profits’ gained by Walter Wong through city contracts

San Francisco will seek to recover “illegal profits” gained by well-known permit… Continue reading

SF Police Commission votes to expand use-of-force policy

Decision to bypass union negotiations could set stage for litigation

Free Muni for Youth program expansion halted by SFMTA budget crisis

Low- and moderate-income kids can still travel for free

Most Read