What’s Up Doc?: Breaking repetitive patterns is easier than you think

Students gather at an anti-bullying meeting. Richard Crowley’s mobile app helps users address bullying in schools, workplaces and marriages. (Joe Harpring/AP)
facebooktwittergoogle_plusmailfacebooktwittergoogle_plusmail

Today is the beginning of my weekly column for the San Francisco Examiner. I encourage you to email me any comments, critiques and subject matter you would like to see discussed here.

I’m Richard Crowley and I have a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. My professional training includes an internship and a fellowship in community mental health at Harvard University’s primary medical and psychiatric teaching institutions. I’ve lectured internationally and appeared countless times in the media including USA Today, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Seattle Times, Penthouse, Collegiate Baseball, Sporting News radio, NPR, the Charlie Rose Show, the Merv Griffin Show and ESPN. I served in the army as a Captain in the Medical Service Corps.

I’ve written “Mentalball: Beat Your Invisible Opponent at Its Own Game” containing some 50 stories of baseball and softball players from ages 12 through Major League Baseball players who became disconnected from their abilities to throw or hit and helped them to get back on track again. This “disconnect” is now known as the “yips” that many baseball players struggle with.

I’ve co-authored four books with Dr. Joyce Mills. They include winner of the 1988 Clark Vincent Award for an “outstanding contribution to the profession through a literary work” of “Therapeutic Metaphors for Children” and the “Child Within” in its second edition in English, German and French; “Cartoon Magic” that shows children how to overcome fear, pain, feeling different, etc. through the use of cartoon characters; “Sammy the Elephant & Mr. Camel” in English, Spanish and Korean is a story to help children overcome bedwetting; and a Childhelp USA commissioned Fred Flintstone comic book dealing metaphorically with abused/neglected children called “Fred Protects The Vegetables.”

The culmination of all my life’s work is finally on a mobile app, Imagine All Better, that integrates classic and quantum physics principles. The app is designed to walk the user through a process that can permanently remove upsetting emotions and unwanted behaviors that we all struggle with. You’ll learn that the cause of these struggles is not mental or psychological in nature, but is part of the human condition. I will spell out what I mean by this seemingly heretical, bold statement in the next few columns. While you believe that you are your worst enemy and sabotage yourself, you will begin to see that this “belief” is merely a belief that has not been challenged before. You will start to see yourself and your upsetting emotions and behaviors in a much different light. The Imagine All Better app is co-authored with Vince Kubilus as well as is the book we wrote, “Imagine All Better: Breaking Repeating Emotional and Behavioral Patterns We All Struggle With Is Easier Than You Think.”

My column will include, but not be limited to, specific issues that cause our upsetting emotions and behaviors that may fall into one or more of the following broad categories:

  • Anxiety (Fears, negative thoughts, worries about “what if,” what I could’ve, should’ve, would’ve said or done)
  • Blocks to creative processes (Actors, composers, designers, fine artists, musicians, writers and creative people)
  • Bugged/controlled by people who press my buttons (Children, parents, siblings, teachers, politicians, coaches, friends, co-workers)
  • Bullied/cyberbullied/made fun of/put down (school, neighborhood, workplace bullies, parents, bosses, relationships, marriages)
  • Character flaws (feeling inadequate, shame, incomplete, scarred, defective, “damaged”)
  • Fighting/struggling with my demons
  • Financial worries
  • Health concerns (Upsetting emotional feelings associated with medical symptoms, diagnoses, flus, colds, etc. Unable to do what I know is in my best interest)
  • I’m my worst enemy/I sabotage myself
  • Insecurities/Confidence issues
  • Making the same mistake I swore I’d never make again
  • No matter what I do, it’s never good enough/always disappointing others
  • Parenting skills (Worried about being a good parent)
  • Relationship problems (Always finding losers, bad breakups, bad relationships, betrayed)
  • School issues (Test anxiety, social standing, bored, underachieving, “lazy”)
  • Sports performance (Overthinking, anxiety, mad at myself, second guessing, down/depressed, body tension, physiological discomfort)
  • Stress (Acute, chronic)
  • Workplace interactions (Job insecurity, lack of motivation, fear of asking for a raise, anxiety about making presentations, hate cold calling, annoying coworkers)

Dr. Richard Crowley is a sports psychologist (www.Sportsmaker.com), author and co-developer of the Imagine AllBetter app (www.ImagineAllBetter.com). Email questions & article suggestions to Doc@ImagineAllBetter.com.

In Other News